P.A.V.E news letter for the fall
November 10, 2009
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PAVE Newsletter
Shatter the Silence of Sexual Violence
October 2009
In this Issue
:: Rape Is Rape Protest a Success
:: Angela Rose’s East Coast Tour
:: Documentary on a Male Survivor
:: Advanced Showing of Precious
:: 12th Anniversary of the Million Women March
Dear Jacki m,
PAVE shatters the silence of sexual violence through social awareness, educational outreach, and legislative efforts. By being both prevention and awareness focused, PAVE works on all fronts to end sexual violence affecting men, women and children throughout the globe.
We use education and action to challenge cultural norms that encourage violence and ignore the spectrum of sexual abuse. We create an awareness and response to any injustices victims, survivors and their communities suffer.
You’re invited to join this important work – learn more today!
Rape Is Rape Protest
Nation-Wide Support for Survivors
PAVE thanks all those who came out October 10, 2009 to protest supporters of Polanski and demand that all perpetrators be accountable for their sexually violent crimes.
Nearly 50 cities across the United States and Canada rallied to support survivors and encourage their communities to
Read Jaclyn Friedman’s article We are All Polanski’s Victim.
This was a success due to your responses in only 10 days – we thank you. We had media coverage from coast to coast.
Executive Director Update
Angela’s East Coast Tour 
Angela Rose, PAVE’s Founder and Executive Director, spent most of October in New York and Washington DC spreading the message of empowerment, education, art and action.
She spent time in Washington DC at the Military Sexual Assault Taskforce meetings, spoke in Radford University, University of Virginia in Charlottesville, and created grassroots action on the streets of New York City.
Male Survivor Empowerment
Take Back the Night
Our very own Male Empowerment Director, Gabe Wright, will be taking a huge leap of faith and courage into an empowering journey that will take him back to the very site of his rape "exactly" 12 years ago this November 13th for the first time since then.
He will be traveling to Hickory, NC November 10-13th to site where his attack took place. With support through the local college
Lenoir Rhyne University and the local Catawba County Rape Crisis Center there will be a Take Back The Night week of events to shatter the silence of sexual violence within the campus community.
This trip will become a documentary entitled "Shattering the Silence: An Empowering Perspective into the Life of a Deaf Male Survivor of Sexual Violence". This video will be used to create awareness and support for Male Survivors. This empowering footage will end at the site of Gabe’s attack with a candlelight vigil for Take Back The Night.
Advocacy and the Arts
DePaul Law School Event
PAVE wants to thank
DePaul Law School in Chicago, Illinois for putting on an amazing event called:
Advocacy, Expression, and Education: Exploring Human Rights Through the Arts
It was an inspiring event to see what is being done both nationally and internationally in the arts to promote human rights. Here is a summary of the event and its agenda.
A special thanks to PAVE’s International Faith Director Jaime Gill who served as a panel moderator for this event!
Living For Today
Empowering New Book
Tackling head-on the ugly world of incest,
Living for Today: From Incest and Molestation to Fearlessness and Forgiveness by Erin Merryn is a call to action for abuse victims and those who love them.
Living for Today chronicles Erin’s journey of unearthing of private shame and letting go of guilt to become the mouthpiece of millions in her generation.
Through her compelling narrative, readers will learn how they, too, can:
– Look forward in spite of an abusive past
– Block off guilt from outing an abuser
– Deal with inter-family strife as a result of incest and molestation
– Replace a "victim" tag with one that reads "survivor"
ABOUT THE AUTHOR:
Erin Merryn is the author of Stolen Innocence, a memoir about incest. She graduated in May 2009 with a Master’s degree in Social Work from Aurora University. A leading participant in Take Back the Night, her goal is to raise awareness of abuse in order to end the stigma and silence.
Look for a quote from PAVE’s Angela Rose on the back of this new book!!
Franken Amendment
Halliburton’s Policy on Rape
Jamie Lee Jones was brutally gang raped by fellow workers at Halliburton in Iraq. Upon reporting she was locked up for about a day until being allowed to call home. See her testimony before the House Judiciary Committee.
When she tried to take action against her perpetrators and the company that locked her up she found her avenues for justice had been blocked. The evidence from her case was taken by Halliburton and her contract with them required arbitration for cases of sexual harassment and rape.
The Senate voted this month on the Franken Amendment which would prohibit defense contractors from requiring arbitration in cases of rape or sexual harassment. The amendment passed 68-30; read more here.
For updates on her case, please follow:
http://www.jamiesfoundation.org/
Pre-Screening of Precious
Advance Showing
PAVE is supporting the advance screening of
PRECIOUS, which is based on the novel
Push by Sapphire.
PAVE will be present at the advanced screening here in Chicago at the AMC 600 Theatre on Monday, November 2nd at 7pm.
Learn more about the movie that inspired Tyler Perry to publicly shatter the silence:
http://www.weareallprecious.com/
Join Team Ten: Host a Listening Party
Date: November 2009
Location: Your Home
Purpose: Critically acclaimed poet
Steven Connell wrote and performed extremely moving pieces about shattering the silence of sexual violence. Invite 10 of your friends over to hear the exclusive recording.
MORE INFO COMING SOON – STAY TUNED
Upcoming Events
2010 Stop Violence Against Women Day
Date: January 26, 2010 8am-2pm
Location: Start at Central Presbyterian Church
201 Washington St., SW, Atlanta, GA 303
Purpose: Will have a lightbreakfast than ove the the state capital rotunda for a rally at nooon
RSVP
Summit on Violence and Abuse in Relationships
Date: February 28-29, 2010
Location: Hyatt Regency in Bethesda, Maryland
Purpose: Unite the science, service and policy surrounding issues of violence prevention
More Info
Amnesty International’s Art Festival
Date: April 23-25, 2010
Location: Silver Spring, Maryland
Purpose: An arts and human rights festival is a powerful manner of bringing cultural organizations and businesses together, as well as highlighting the highest possibilities of the American social and political spheres.
Event Website
Sophia 2010 World Conference
Date: May 25-29, 2010
Location: Bulgaria
Purpose: PAVE is uniting international to co-chair the committee for Ending Violence and Human Trafficking.
Learn more here
Nominate a Survivor
Male Survivors and Allies
MaleSurvivor is accepting nominations for the following awards:
· Faye Honey Knopp Memorial Award
· Howard Fradkin Award for Creative Survivor Support
· Richard Gartner Award for Clinical Contribution
· Mic Hunter Award for Research Advances
· Mark Crawford Advocacy Award
· The Ken Singer Award for Preventive Intervention
Awards will be presented at:
12th International Conference
March 19 – 21, 2010
John Jay College of Criminal Justice
New York City, NY
E-mail nominations to:
President@MaleSurvivor.org
Please include your contact information in the email along with a short narrative of the reason you are nominating the recipient. If available, please include the contact email and/or phone number for the nominee.
Million Women March
March to Movement
This October 25th marked the anniversary of the largest gathering in the world of any women anywhere and the unprecedented coming together of women of African decent from all walks of life.
The 12th Anniversary of the Million Woman March was the official kicking off a global campaign to address any and all violence against black females, such as murder,rape, molestation, exploitation, discrimination, stalking, battering, kidnapping, trafficking, etc.
To get involved in this global campaign please attend "The International Summit and Rally to Fight Violence and Abuse of African Women and Girls Worldwide" this May in Washington, D.C. At that many community leaders from North America and parts of African will gather cultivate greater awareness, training, support information, analysis, and preparedness to impact the crisis that faces the African World Family.
To obtain more information please e-mail:
nationalmwm@aol.com or call 267-636-3802
Excerpts from the Million Women March.
Action Alert
Billy’s Law – Help Find the Missing
Help Find the Missing Act, known as Billy’s Law, has been introduced to Congress and needs your support to help it get passed.
Jan Smolinski has received the "Green Light" on getting the word around the country and is asking EVERYONE to please call their Congressmen and plead for them to co-sponsor this all important bill.
Learn more about
Billy’s Law and sign the petition to show your support.
"The more cosponsors we get, the more likely Congress will vote on the bill. Representatives are more likely to cosponsor the bill if constituents call (or write) and ask them to! They can leave a general message or ask to speak with the Judiciary staffer."
Get involved with a community dedicated to bringing peace for victims and families of the missing: http://peace4missing.ning.com/
New PAVE Affiliates
Welcome!
The Hope of Survivors – Effingham, Illinois
Metropolitan Organization to Counter Sexual Assault (MOCSA) - Kansas City, Missouri
The Rape Crisis Center – Las Vegas, Nevada
Center Against Domestic & Sexual Abuse, Inc. – Superior, Wisconsin
One in Three Women - Seattle, Washington
South Carolina Victim Assistance Network – Columbia, South Carolina
Speaking Out About Rape (SOAR) – Orlando, Florida
Sexual Violence in the Media
The topic of sexual violence is frequently in the media both nationally and internationally. Part of shattering the silence is reading and responding this news. PAVE encourages you to write a
letter to the editor or comment on blogs covering the article, such as PAVE Voices.
International News
New York Times article: In a Guinea Seized by Violence, Women Are Prey
Domestic News
CNN feature: Tyler Perry Shatters the Silence
TIME Magazine Article: What Women Want Now – The State of the American Woman
US News: Eve Ensler named one of America’s Best Leaders in 2009
Huffington Post article: Rape Victim’s Choice: Risk AIDS or Health Insurance?
Women’s E-News Feature: Let’s Stop Sex Trafficking Right Here at Home
Newsletters
One in Three Women’s October Newsletter
Donate today to continue our efforts to shatter the silence of sexual violence in your community!
Sincerely,
QUICK Links
PAVE Mailing List
Twitter: PAVEInfo – PAVEJustice
PAVE Website
Angela Rose’s Website
Madison Chapter of PAVE
from the Spiritual Zen
November 7, 2009
Spiritual Zen
Enhance Relationships With the 90 Second Rule
Posted: 05 Nov 2009 10:13 AM PST
You’ve been at the office all day, as soon as you get home and walk in the door, you’re immediately hit with a dozen questions by a loved one. How do you react? What’s your initial feeling inside? If you’re like me, you can sometimes feel a little… annoyed. Although I don’t really like that word—annoyed—because it seems a little self-righteous. Sort of like the word tolerance—like I am so much better, that it’s my “duty” to tolerate people. In my opinion, if I’m tolerating something, I’m coming from a place of being better than and not equal to. So I need to watch that. If I’m truly in a serene and place of inner-peace, nothing can throw me off. Although when a deer almost ran across the road in front of me on the way home from the gym the other night, that pretty much threw me off.
Part of the St. Francis Prayer is, “Lord, grant that I may seek rather to comfort than to be comforted – to understand, than to be understood – to love, than to be loved. For it is by self-forgetting that one finds.” That means try to understand that maybe the person is excited to see you, has been thinking about these things all day and wants your opinion—or just to listen. Likewise, if you’re the one asking all the questions, try understanding that your loved may like to slowly unwind when they get home. But by all means, PAY ATTENTION TO ONE ANOTHER! Especially in the first 90 seconds.
You may have heard about Jim Fannin’s project, the 90 Second Rule:
“If you’ve been away from someone you care about or love for at least two hours, the first 90-seconds that you see them has more impact on the relationship than spending hours with them later.”
I first learned about this from Alex Shalman’s blog post, 90 Second Rule of Relationships. Alex looks at the 90 Second rule from more of a scientific approach, saying “This is my take on it: At ‘first’ our brain experiences a sense of novelty (a new experience), at which point we’re much more mentally stimulated, excited, and aware. After this, our brain gets used to the other person being there, and they’ve already had an opportunity to set an impression on us and set the tone to go in a certain direction.”
I like to keep things simple. If it works, I use it. So here’s the video (the message is great, the acting and direction, well… ):
The 90 Second Rule is a great way to improve your relationships, try it. I can tell you it takes practice! I forget about it a lot, but I can say that when I feel that disturbance in the force when I first see someone after being away for a long time, I think of the 90 Second Rule and try go pay better attention. I try to be more understanding than understood.
What do you do in the first 90 Seconds to make someone feel special?
photo credit: jessamyn
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News from Mike Skinner
November 6, 2009
The Surviving Spirit Newsletter – Healing the Heart Through the Creative Arts – 11/5/09
Hello Folks,
I hope all is well for everyone, things are good here…no complaints.
No complaints…but some great news to share. I had the good fortune to perform last week at The Alternatives Conference in Omaha, NE. [http://alternatives2009.org] That went well, met a lot of wonderful people, sold lots of my cd’s, and…I received the Howie the Harp Arts Award!!! For those unfamiliar with Howie, here’s a little background info:
“Since his passing, Howie has been memorialized in many ways. In his memory, a “Howie the Harp Arts Award” is given each year at Alternatives to an artist who exemplifies his spirit as an artist with a social change message. Many have written stories and poetry about him.” http://alteredstatesofthearts.com/
Howie the Harp Peer Advocacy and Training Center –
Created in 1995, HTH was inspired by the vision of its founder, Howard "Howie T. Harp" Geld, a man who had known homelessness and mental illness. Howie championed the idea that people with psychiatric disabilities do not have to be relegated to menial, low-paying jobs, but can find meaningful work that pays a living wage.
http://www.communityaccess.org/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=18&Itemid=20
When my health issues of complex post traumatic stress & depression laid me low back in 1993, I soon became quite angry at how I was being treated by so many. So I started learning about people doing advocacy work on the issues and concerns of those labeled “mentally ill”. I became quite aware of what Howie did in that arena.
Closer to home here in New Hampshire, two people had a significant impact upon me back then, Sherry Young & Shery Mead. Both were speaking out and doing incredible advocacy work via their respective organizations. Sherry Young with the NH Incest Center and Shery Mead with Stepping Stones Peer Support Center. To eventually become friends with both of them made it even better. I learned a lot from their examples of speaking out and doing the right thing. So to receive this award many years later is truly an honor for me. As I mentioned in accepting the award – “This is like getting a Grammy Award in the mental health arena. Thank you!!!”
I will attach the introduction speech [and picture–thanks Charles!!] prepared by my dear fiend Ed Pazicky and read by another dear friend, Gayle Bluebird. You can learn more about their advocacy endeavors in the creative arena at the above-mentioned Altered States of the Arts website link.
Also, please check this out!!! – “The Fall 09 Rap Sheet is online, with your story in it!” http://www.drcnh.org/RAPFall09.pdf.
Not only is there a short article I wrote on my music and healing…but there are lots of great articles on some truly impressive creative people overcoming great odds despite their respective disability issues. Well worth taking the time to read…please.
And finally, I will be performing this Saturday for this great endeavor. Debbie Chambers and I met many years ago when we both presented at a college in Boston [BU I believe??] and she is another great example [and friend] of one overcoming great difficulties in life and turning that around to help others. What a great gift to the world!!!
Learn About Surviving Sexual Abuse
& Child Sexual Abuse Prevention
Attending Conference#22 Is One Step Towards Healing From Sexual Abuse
Join Other Victims/Survivors Of Adult or Child Sexual Abuse
Find The Support You Need To Become A Thriving Survivor of Sexual Abuse
Date: 11/07/09 Time: 11am to 3pm Always FREE
Debbie Chambers – Empowering Children
Codman Square Health Center’s – The Great Hall – Entrance Across From McDonald’s
637 Washington Street Dorchester, MA 02124
Phone: 617-298-1102 617-298-1102
Email: dcempoweringchildren@gmail.com
Website: dcempowering.org
Take care, Mike
Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.
~Martin Luther King, Jr.
A diagnosis is not a destiny.
www.mskinnermusic.com – Hope, Healing, & Help for Trauma, Abuse, & Mental Health through music, resources, & advocacy
www.myspace.com/michaelskinnermusic – musical endeavors only
www.youtube.com/mcstrain – live performance of "Brush Away Your Tears" from TV show interview
mikeskinner@comcast.net 603-625-2136 603-625-2136 38 River Ledge Drive, Goffstown, NH 03045
www.michaelskinner.net – new site for public speaking & music presentation on healing for trauma, abuse, & mental health.
p s. Please share this with your friends and colleagues…and if you have receive this in error, please let me know. Thanks!!!
Forwarded from Lady Jz Talk Zone
Welcome of Manito Ahbee Festival
November 5, 2009
★ ATTENTION : MANITO AHBEE FESTIVAL !!! ★
Sun at 1:59pm
Welcome to Manito Ahbee
NOVEMBER 4TH TO 8TH, 2009! The dates have been finalized. The Manito Ahbee Festival and the Aboriginal Peoples Choice Music Awards invite participants from around the world to gather in Winnipeg, Manitoba, Canada to celebrate music, arts and culture in the heart of Turtle Island.
The festival honours the Manito Ahbee sacred site, our elders, ancestors, communities and global nation and welcomes everyone to share their knowledge, gifts and history. The Board of Governors, staff and organizers of the Manito Ahbee Festival express deep gratitude for all participants, supporters and communities who came together to make the festival what it is today.
Attention Aboriginal Peoples Choice Music Awards Nominees!
Artist Services will be available for all 2009 Nominees for pick-up of Artist Packages. Artist Packages include Manito Ahbee and APCMA information, tickets and passes.
Location: The Fairmont Hotel
Mezzanine level (signs will be posted)
2 Lombard Avenue
Winnipeg, Manitoba
204-840-8402 204-840-8402
Hours: Tuesday, Nov.3rd, 12 noon to 7pm in the Lancaster Room.
Wednesday, Nov. 4th, 9am to 5pm in the Harrow Room.
Thursday, Nov. 5th, 9am to 5pm in the Lancaster Room.
NOTE: Starting Friday Nov. 6th Artists packages can be picked at the MTS Centre, Main Entrance –
Portage & Donald, second level.
Contact: Chris Gabb
# 204-795-4780 204-795-4780
Derek McCorrister
# 204-941-0096 204-941-0096
DISTRIBUTION OF AWARDS
APTN First Night Awards, Thursday, Nov. 5, 2009
McPhillips Station Casino
484 McPhillips Street
Winnipeg, Manitoba
6:00 p.m. Seating
6:30 p.m. Show Start
Categories Distributed:
BEST HAND DRUM CD
BEST GOSPEL CD
BEST PEYOTE CD
BEST ALBUM COVER DESIGN
BEST TELEVISION PROGRAM/PROMOTION OF ABORIGINAL MUSIC
BEST INTERNATIONAL ARTIST CD
BEST PRODUCER/ENGINEER CD
BEST ABORIGINAL RADIO STATION/PROGRAM
BEST RADIO SINGLE OF THE YEAR
BEST RAP/HIP HOP
BEST BLUES CD
Aboriginal Peoples Choice Music Awards – Televised Live on APTN
MTS Centre
Portage and Donald
Winnipeg, Manitoba
APTN Pre-Awards Reception – Exchange Restaurant – MTS Centre
5:00 p.m. to 7:00 p.m. *Nominees and Invite Only
Red Carpet Event – Exchange Restaurant (must register) – MTS Centre 6:00 p.m. to 7:00 p.m. *Nominees and Invite Only
APCMA’s
7:00 p.m. Seating
8:00 p.m. Show Start
Categories Distributed:
BEST COUNTRY CD
BEST FOLK OR ACOUSTIC CD
BEST ROCK CD
BEST POW WOW TRADITIONAL CD
BEST POW WOW CONTEMPORARY CD
BEST NEW ARTIST CD
ABORIGINAL SONGWRITER OF THE YEAR CD
BEST POP CD
BEST GROUP OR DUO CD
ABORIGINAL ENTERTAINER OF THE YEAR
SINGLE OF THE YEAR
For more information on the Manito Ahbee Festival, please contact our offices at:
Local: 204.956.1849 204.956.1849
Toll Free: 1.866.449.0251 1.866.449.0251
Fax: 204.956.0241
Email: info@manitoahbee.com
Gift from Within
November 4, 2009
October 29, 2009
Dear Friends:
Gift From Within has a new article on domestic violence. Please feel free to share and or link this article to your website. Additional resources are below. Many of our members are survivors of sexual assault, domestic violence and child abuse. Thank you for the work you are doing on behalf of survivors.
Domestic Violence and the Gay Community
© Dr. Amy Menna & Gift From Within
INTRODUCTION
Every human being has a right to peace and safety.
Every individual has a right to be free from coercion from anyone. They deserve to live their lives with integrity and free will. They deserve to be free of emotional, physical, and sexual abuse. They have a right to not only be safe in their home, but to feel safe as well.
Each gay or lesbian human being has a right to express themselves without fear of retribution or discrimination. They have the right to be open with their sexuality. They also have the right to choose to use discretion without the threats from individuals to expose them. They have the right to be in a loving relationship without fear.
Domestic violence is the absence of these rights. It is not an issue solely for heterosexual couples. The gay and lesbian community is not exempt from this problem. Under the cloak of secrecy, domestic violence has permeated the gay and lesbian community at the same rate as it has the heterosexual community. There are similarities as well as differences between the LGBT and heterosexual communities. The LGBT community has the added stigma and limited protection creating a unique struggle.
THE UNIQUE NATURE OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IN THE GAY COMMUNITY
Many facets of domestic violence are the same in the LGBT community as in the heterosexual one. There are, however, some unique features with LGBT individuals. The LGBT community as well as the heterosexual community needs to be aware of the topic of Domestic Violence. In addition, protective measures need to be taken to safeguard this marginalized population.
In heterosexual relationships, it is often the male who abuses the female (although this is not always the case). However, in LGBT relationships, this power differential is less apparent. Seeing that there is no "male-female" dynamic, many individuals believe that the behavior is mutual. This leads to discrimination against the victim of the abuse suggesting that he or she had a "part" in the abuse.
Utilization of services in the LGBT community is limited. LGBT individuals are often hesitant to attend support groups or go to a shelter as these are typically geared towards heterosexual individuals. Often these individuals may feel that they have to lie about their orientation therefore hiding the gender of the abuser. In addition, they may also have to face coming out to other individuals whether it be police, friends, support group members, or individuals at a shelter. This may preclude them from receiving legal or other services. This results in less utilization of services and places them at more risk for abuse.
Many myths surround the LGBT community. There is a myth among many heterosexuals that LGBT relationships are not normal. In fact, it may be viewed as an aberration. A victim may not want to perpetuate the myth that LGBT relationships are abnormal further stigmatizing the LGBT community. As in heterosexual couples, fear of exposure may be fear of humiliation or potential for escalated abuse.
The support for the LGBT community is lacking. Social circles may be small and limited to other LGBT individuals. As such, there may be an added stigma to abuse. Support may be difficult to find as many may know the abuser. It is also often difficult to start a new life within the same intimate community. In addition, unlike heterosexual individuals, it may be more difficult for an LGBT victim to minority individual experiencing the same circumstances.
One weapon of abuse includes economic power. There is often no formal combining of finances thereby making it easier for the abuser to control the economic circumstances. Often the abuser puts assets in their own name and debt in the victim’s name. This leads to greater fear of economic struggle if the victim chooses to leave. There is not a legal process to assist in the separation as is the case if individuals are legally married. In addition there are laws that protect heterosexual individuals that preclude same-sex relationships. Without legal statutes geared towards the LGBT community, they are left vulnerable to abuse without protection.
For the rest of the article please go to:
Domestic Violence and the Gay Community:A Right to Peace and Safety
Additional Gift From Within DV & SA Resources Include:
Interactive art exhibit
A Woman’s Journey from Domestic Violence Victim to Survivor: The DOOR
"A Woman’s Journey from Domestic Violence Victim to Survivor" was constructed to encourage thought and action as people go about their daily activities. It has been displayed in coffee shops, City Hall, university campuses, and hospitals. It is intended to honor the strength and courage of women and men who have experienced domestic violence. The DOOR was created by Stacie Dubay, LMSW, a Counseling Supervisor at End Violent Encounters (EVE), Inc. in Lansing, Michigan. She has been working in the field of domestic violence for eleven years. Stacie began creating art as both a physical and emotional escape. She hopes to educate communities, encourage dialogue, motivate others and validate others’ experiences.
It has a permanent home on Gift From Within, an international non-profit organization dedicated to those who suffer post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), those at risk for PTSD, and those who care for traumatized individuals.
Gift From Within’s articles include:
Dealing with Domestic Abuse: Lessons from Kathy
Understanding the Victims of Spousal Abuse
Trauma in American Indian Communities
Latinas in Pursuit of Healing:
The African-American Guide to Healing from Sexual Assault and Abuse
Understanding Asian Americans’ Experiences of Relationship Trauma
Rape Trauma Syndrome:The Journey to Healing Belongs to Everyone
Domestic Violence Against Men: Bryan’s Story
Suffering in Silence: The Problem of Male Sexual Abuse
Professional: Understanding and Preventing Compassion Fatigue – A Handout – For Professionals
Professional: The Art and Science of Caring for Others without Forgetting Self-Care
Professional: Posttraumatic Stress, Mental Health Professionals, and the Clergy: A Need for Collaboration, Training, and Research
FREE VIDEO: Location: Webcast Page
Title: Interpersonal Violence: Creating Opportunities for Personal Empowerment
Produced by Dr. Janice L. Krupnick and the Center for Trauma & the Community
Georgetown University School of Medicine
part one | part two
DVD "Survival From Domestic Violence: Stories of Hope and Healing"
This film presents stories of women who transformed their lives after living through domestic violence. The steps they took to create safety, build a support system and find independence are described. Through their first hand accounts they give other victims hope that healing and recovery is possible. DVD. 14 minutes $30.00
Additional Resources
Gift From Within Free Educational Webcasts
Survivor Psalm – for survivors of trauma
Column:"Question and Answers on PTSD”
CD Sage Advice For Trauma Survivors and Caregivers
Educational Tapes & DVD’s on Trauma and Victimization
Best wishes,
Joyce Boaz
Director
Gift From Within-PTSD Resources for Survivors and Caregivers
l6 Cobb Hill Road
Camden, ME 04843 USA
207 236-8858 ph
207 236-2818 fax
National Animal Shelter Appreciation Week
November 4, 2009
Please Support Your Local Shelter 
In 1996, The Humane Society of the United States (HSUS) launched National Animal Shelter Appreciation Week (based on an idea from the Capital Humane Society in Lincoln, Nebraska).
This campaign was designed to acknowledge and promote the invaluable role that animal shelters play in our communities, and to increase public awareness of animal welfare issues and shelter services.
During National Animal Shelter Appreciation Week, the first full week of every November, The HSUS promotes and celebrates animal shelters across the country through media and public outreach.
And right now, our animal shelters can use all the help and appreciation that they can get – they are now sadly overflowing with unwanted, dumped, and foreclosed pets.
If you can’t adopt a new pet right now to ease their burden, please consider either donating some food or supplies to your local animal shelter (they all have ‘Wish Lists’), or volunteering some of your time, to help them out. They are all woefully underfunded, and understaffed, and yet, most of them do a pretty good job of caring for animals that we as a society, continue to discard.
Your local animal shelter not only cares for displaced animals and adopts them into loving new homes; many of them also investigate animal cruelty and neglect, reunite lost pets with their families, teach our children to care about animals, and often provide low cost spay/neuter services to those in need.
The ‘Shelters Rock’ Logo shown above was created by Patrick McDonnell, beloved not only for his comic strip MUTTS and his many beautifully illustrated books, but also for his fervent support of critters, pet adoption, and animal shelters.
What would your own community do without your local animal shelter?
Please show some support to your local shelter, in some way, this National Animal Shelter Appreciation Week.
Web Site
The Humane Society of The United States
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PAVE: Bulletin
November 3, 2009
PAVE: Promoting Awareness, Victim Empowerment Bulletin
Posted by Pave Survivor Justice
Dear PAVE Supporters,
PAVE is now entered in America’s Giving Challenge to win $50,000 by November 7th!
To win the grand prize we need the most donations, whether big or small, by Nov. 7th. In addition we could with either $500 or $1,000 daily for the most donation in a 24-hour period. Encourage your friends to make a minimum donation
It takes a second to donate at: http://tiny.cc/PAVEDonate, and spread the word!
Sincerely,
Laura L Dunn
PAVE Survivor Justice Director
www.pavingtheway.net
Project for tears: bulletin
November 3, 2009
Project for TEARS: Telling Everyone About Rape & Suicide Bulletin
Posted by Lynn C. Tolson
Author Lynn C. Tolson is proud to announce that her memoir
Beyond the Tears: A True Survivor’s Story
is listed at the
NATIONAL SEXUAL VIOLENCE RESOURCE CENTER LIBRARY http://www.nsvrc.org
The National Sexual Violence Resource Center serves as the nation’s principle information and resource center regarding all aspects of sexual violence. It provides national leadership, consultation and technical assistance by generating and facilitating the development and flow of information on sexual violence intervention and prevention strategies. The NSVRC works to address the causes and impact of sexual violence through collaboration, prevention efforts and the distribution of resources.
This library database contains the library collections of both the National Sexual Violence Resource Center (NSVRC) and the Pennsylvania Coalition Against Rape (PCAR). A default search allows you to search both collections at once. You may also search just one of the collections at a time, through the search options location field.
Although the NSVRC library is a non-lending collection, we can provide you with selected resources from our library. Please contact us for more information.
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More from the “Spiritual Zen”
October 31, 2009
I really enjoy reading his blogs. Here’s another great one for you, LadyJ
Posted: 29 Oct 2009 04:39 PM PDT
Last night my wife and I met up with some friends for a great dinner and conversation. I love those times when you laugh so much your face hurts! It was the first time I’ve had a great steak in quite a while also. I mention the steak because my wife and I have been working hard on getting in shape for our upcoming trip to Cozumel in late November. We love SCUBA diving so we’re hoping that by getting in shape, we’ll not only look better, but won’t be so wiped out after a long day of diving. Oh, and I used to eat a lot of Ribeye’s with tons of fat on them…
Here’s my shameless plug (no affiliate links), but it’s really working! My wife and I are following the fitness tips found in the Vacation Body Blueprint, which is a free eBook you can get that outlines a basic routine for reducing body fat. We joined the gym on October 2nd and have been going 5 days a week since. It was slow going at first, but on October 13th I downloaded the eBook. At that point I weighed 183 lbs and was at about 24% body fat. As of this morning, I weigh 177 lbs and 20% body fat. I use a scale and a digital caliper to calculate body fat but I’m still not sure how accurate it is. But I can tell you, my pants are fitting better! The biggest key to loosing body fat, diet. Period. You need, on average, a calorie deficiency. I’m sure you’ve heard the saying, “you can’t out exercise a bad diet.” If interested in my workout, I can post that in another post (let me know of you guys are interested in my workout and diet), or you can follow the link and get the Vacation Body Blueprint.
OK, back to laughter…
Rule #62: Never take yourself too seriously
I love laughter so much. It really is like spiritual crack for the soul. Early in my recovery from alcoholism, I spent as many hours as possible with fellow addicts and alcoholics also trying to get well. We laughed a lot! Most importantly, I learned how to laugh at myself. Like how I used to drink 1/2 a large bottle of citrus flavored Listerine a night while living in a sober house. Yes, Listerine. I mean what do you expect, I was an alcoholic living in a house which didn’t allow alcohol… citrus flavored Listerine at 21.6% alcohol is the next obvious choice right? I often joke that it gave me horrific heart burn, but my breath sure smelled great! Later on in treatment I discovered from the doctors I was lucky I didn’t go into kidney failure. I laugh about it now, and many of the other self-destructive things I’ve done to myself.
I was so desperate for relief from my haunting past, I would take notes of things that gave me temporary relief from my self-pity and remorseful thinking. I mean really simple things, like, “yesterday I went out to eat dinner with a bunch of friends, we laughed a lot and I felt much better.” Next time I started feeling lonely and depressed, whether I felt like doing anything about it or not, I would get out my list and repeat one of the things I had written down.
Laughter is so powerful, that when laughing, nothing else in the world matters. I think I always knew this, but during times of heavy emotional stress, laughter can be extremely healing; if only for a temporary distraction. Sure, when you’re knee-deep in crap it can be hard to find something to laugh about, but try anyway. OH, and it helps to have friends that make you laugh. Too much laughing at yourself alone may be a little disturbing.
Two bananas are laying on their backs next to each other on a river bank enjoying a peaceful afternoon. Next thing you know, one of the bananas notices a log floating down the river. As the log get’s closer, the banana realizes there’s a turd sitting right there on top of the log as it floats by. He casually points it out to the other banana and says, “huh, you believe that shit?”
Got a quick joke? Leave one in the comments!! (and try to be at least PG-13 please)
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DreamCatchers for Abused Children
October 30, 2009
Hello Lady J 
Thank you for inquiring about our books!!!
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The Child Abuse Survivor Project is intended to help men, women and children who have been affected by child abuse by publishing real stories of real abuse. These emotional stories detail personal acts of extreme mental, emotional, physical and sexual childhood abuse and the overwhelming impact it has on one’s life. The Child Abuse Survivor Project is a community social action project. It recognizes the adversity which those victimized by child abuse have survived and validates their heroic resilience to the abuse they suffered. We want to honor the strength, spirit and courage of abuse survivors by empowering them to speak out against the abuse they have endured at the hands of their abusers. Our goal is to make this project one of healing, validation and inspiration to others. Join the survivors who have found the courage to speak out, along with a voice to end their suffering by sharing their story, all in hopes of helping others affected by abuse.
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Paperback: 204 pages
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Only two weeks into her marriage Danica began to see her relationship with Tyler in a whole new light. Tyler wasn’t the same man he was before they married. She noticed there was something different about him. He was more controlling, desperate and hid behind a mask of anger and rage. Tyler soon began hitting on Danica which in turn escalated into beatings. Like others before her, she is faced with the fear of embarrassment. The fear of having people know that she, too, is a domestic violence victim would inevitably show her followers that she was weak. Danica’s secret story was finally revealed after a detailed account of her dramatic story of domestic violence was found in a journal in her attic. This powerful story takes our reader through the vicious cycles of abuse, and the brutal reality of the effects domestic violence has and what cost Danica her life.
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Child Abuse Book Endorsed by Amber Child Safety & The Tiponi Foundation:
By Sandra Potter & Donna M. Kshir United States of America 
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Home and Family: Parenting September 29, 2009
Shedding light on this controversial book is an editorial review and Dreamcatcher endorsement from Mr. Tad A. Camp, the CEO of Amber Child Safety, LLC and the Director, The Tiponi Foundation, Inc.
For_Immediate_Release:
(Free-Press-Release.com) September 29, 2009 —
When authors Donna M. Kshir and Sandra Potter released, "The Child Abuse Survivor Project" controversy immediately surfaced believing the writing duo crossed the line by not only exposing abusers and their vindictive ways, but profiting on other people’s pain. Regardless of the opinion, skepticism or criticism, the book is both hard hitting and successful.
Kshir and Potter know firsthand the only way to fight child abuse is to deter those who abuse children by exposing the real truth behind the secrets they use to lure innocent children into their deceitful web. They also believe the public needs to know how manipulative and cruel abusers can be, how to fight back, and how to survive. As child abuse advocates they strongly believe education and knowledge is the key to prevention.
Throughout it all there has been one shining light through the tunnel of darkness, shedding light on this controversial book is an editorial review and Dreamcatcher endorsement from Mr. Tad A. Camp, the CEO of Amber Child Safety, LLC and the Director, The Tiponi Foundation, Inc.
Camp stated, "If you think horror stories only come from Hollywood, you have another thing coming.
"The Child Abuse Survivor Project contains true tales of abuse and the will to overcome as told by those who lived through unimaginable horrors. Reading this book, I found myself going through a wide range of emotions. I felt the sorrow, confusion, betrayal and desperation of the victims and rage against the monsters that inflected so much pain.
"In reading their stories, you will get a glimpse of the real monsters. These monsters did not come from some swamp or outer-space and they don’t attack teenagers on a camping trip. These monsters live next door and attack the most innocent among us…our children."
Camp added, "I highly recommend this book to all parents and anyone who works with children so they can get a full understanding of the very real dangers that children face."
Regardless of the ongoing controversy, Kshir and Potter never lost focus of their goal; educating the public on the signs, symptoms and long term effects of abuse.
Kshir who is best known for her controversial opinion stated, "Regardless what anyone thinks or believes our goal is to help children. I thank God every day that neither myself nor my children have ever been affected by abuse, but just because I have personally not been affected… doesn’t mean I will close my eyes and pretend child abuse doesn’t exist.
"I don’t see how anyone can close their eyes or pretend child abuse does not exist when it is alive and stronger than ever. Statics are higher than ever before. Abusers are educated on how to manipulate children, and parents and children lack such a hardcore education.
"Regardless of anyone’s opinions or beliefs, abusers are usually well-known and liked by both you and your child. Abusers can be a parent, relative, family friend, teacher, or anyone. They can be a man or woman, married or single. They can hold any religious belief, and have any sexual preference.
"Education or intelligence doesn’t prevent them from molesting your child. Abusers can be a stable, employed, and a respected member of the community. They easily convince your child they are responsible for their wrongful behavior. They may threaten your child with physical violence against them, you, a pet, or loved one. They are good at manipulating children causing that child protect them.
Kshir added, "I will never understand how or why people remain silent and voiceless, and allow child abuse to continue. What are we as a society going to do about it? How are we going to educate and protect our children or end child abuse if the issue remains unspoken? The only option we have is to educate our children at an early age, so the cycle of abuse does not continue, and regardless what anyone says, thinks or believes that is exactly what Sandra (Ms. Potter) and I intend to do."
The writing duo also released, "Unnecessary Roughness: Til death do us part…" This powerful story takes our reader through the vicious cycles of abuse, shattered dreams, broken promises and the brutal reality of the deadly effects of domestic violence. Both books are available at Amazon.com.
Potter is the CEO and Founder of Dreamcatchers for Abused Children, and Kshir was recently promoted from the Marketing Director to the President of Dreamcatchers for Abused Children, which is a non-profit 501 (c) 3 child abuse organization.
A spokesperson for Kshir and Potter stated, the writing duo will release a second series of educational abuse books in January 2010.
child abuse, survivor, domestic violence, Kshir, Potter
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For more information:
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http://www.amberchildsafety.com
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DREAMCATCHER ENDORSEMENT FROM "TAD CAMP"–AMBER CHILD SAFETY
If you think horror stories only come from Hollywood, you have another thing coming.
“The Child Abuse Survivor Project” contains true tales of abuse and the will to overcome as told by those who lived through unimaginable horrors. Reading this book, I found myself going through a wide range of emotions. I felt the sorrow, confusion, betrayal and desperation of the victims and rage against the monsters that inflected so much pain.
In reading their stories, you will get a glimpse of the real monsters. These monsters did not come from some swamp or outer-space and they don’t attack teenagers on a camping trip. These monsters live next door and attack the most innocent among us…our children.
I highly recommend this book to all parents and anyone who works with children so they can get a full understanding of the very real dangers that children face.
Tad A. Camp
CEO, Amber Child Safety, LLC
Director, The Tiponi Foundation, Inc.
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