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July 23, 2010



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2010 Legacy of Women honors 15 women Last year’s Legacy of Women Awards honorees, from L to R:  Christine Cook, Ramona Osburn, Louise Appleman, Nina Jackson and Margo Dean.


Among the fifteen women who will be honored at SafeHaven’s 18th Legacy of Women Awards luncheon on October 29th are renowned artists, business owners, educators and and community leaders. These women selected represent diverse aspects of the Arts, Business, Education, Health and Human Services and Volunteerism.

The format for this year’s event has changed to include an honoree in each category from each of the following geographic regions: Northeast Tarrant County, Greater Fort Worth and Greater Arlington. This brings the number of women recognized up to fifteen from the five that were previously honored at the event.

"On behalf of the 2010 Legacy of Women Awards Committee, it is a pleasure to announce the names of fifteen exceptional women who will be honored at the 2010 Legacy Awards." said Diane Stow, event chair and Fort Worth, Texas Magazine associate publisher. "We want to acknowledge everyone who took the time to nominate so many incredibly accomplished women, and thank them for their continued support of our mission"

This year’s honorees are:


Arlington: LeeAnn Chenoweth-Lawson, president, producer and violinist for Timeless Concerts

Fort Worth: Rebecca Low, owner and sculptor at Rebecca Low Sculptural Metal Gallery and Studio.

Northeast Tarrant County: DeeAnn Blair, executive producer at Artisan Center Theate


Arlington: Taylor Gray, owner of The Shoppes at Brownstone Village

Fort Worth: Shirlee Gandy, owner of RPM Commercial

Northeast Tarrant County: Susan Clark, owner of Sweet Memories Cakes and Catering


Mansfield: Dee Lemser, retired teacher from Mansfield ISD

Fort Worth: Mary Cinatl, Director of the Catholic Diocese of Fort worth

Northeast Tarrant County: Janice Kane, Executive Director of the Grapevine-Colleyville ISD Education Foundation

Health & Human Services

Arlington: Donna Bertram, Vice President and Chief Nursing Officer at Texas Health Arlington Memorial Hospital

Fort Worth: Susan Sward-Comunelli, president of the board and medical director of Mothers’ Milk Bank of North Texas

Northeast Tarrant County: Vicki Truitt, State of Texas District 98 representative


Arlington: Cristy Duke, volunteer for Junior League of Arlington, the Boys and Girls Club, The Oakridge School and Big Brothers and Big Sisters.

Fort Worth: Gail Landreth, volunteer for Historic Fort Worth, Inc., Fort Worth Museum of Science and History, Jewel CharityBall, Junior League of Fort Worth

Northeast Tarrant County: Shirley Schollmeyer, volunteer for the Grapevine-Colleyville ISD, The City of Colleyville, Colleyville Area Chamber of Commerce, the Colleyville Woman’s Club, the Colleyville Garden Club, the Colleyville Community Center, GRACE, and more.

The luncheon will be held at the Omni Hotel in downtown Fort Worth with keynote speaker Royal Chef Darren McGrady, former chef to Princess Diana and Queen Elizabeth.

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Blast on Berry Street celebrated 22 years, opening of boutique

berry st. blastBerry Good Buys, SafeHaven’s resale shop in Fort Worth, celebrated the grand opening of its Berry Chic Boutique and 22 years of operation on June 5.  Staff and customers also enjoyed an afternoon of karaoke, hotdogs, and great sales.  

Be sure to visit Berry Good Buys and the Berry Chic Boutique soon! It’s at 1701 W. Berry St. in Fort Worth. Musicians donated their time to entertain the crowd and other buisnesses donated services and raffle prizes.

Musicians included:  

Taylor Davis (, Taylor Ivey, Clayton Graham Fike (, Tim Miller ( and Silent Exit ( Mandee Welch donated services from her company, Let it Be Photography. You can contact her at Mandee Welch 940-577-1373 and and view the photos here. Media Room Marketing helped book the musicians and can be contacted by visiting or The National Cowgirl Museum & Hall of Fame, Mexican Inn Cafe,
Spring Creek Barbeque, Billy Bob’s Texas, Half Price Books, Starplex Cinemas, Mama’s Pizza
Massey’s and La Gardina all donated raffle prizes.

The store also underwent a massive renovation. Walls were knocked down and spaces were expanded … all because of the help of some generous local contractors! SPD Resources, L.P., Bean Electric and Tenant Provision teamed up to renovate the area that is now one big, open space for the furniture sold at the store. Please consider contacting these companies at, and if you are thinking of having work done on your place of business — they did a fantastic job!

Childrens program creates

summer fun in the shelter

SafeHaven’s child clients participated in a therapeutic horse-painting class while in the children’s program.


Summer is the busiest time of year at SafeHaven’s shelters, especially in the children’s program while the kids are out of school. Below is a list of some of the items needed to help make summer in the shelter fun. If you or someone you know can help us find these items at low or no cost, please contact Krista Moffett at 817-535-6462, ext. 101 or

· Bubbles

· Sand art

· Arts and crafts (beads, paint, etc…)

· Sun block & OFF Bug Spray

· Snacks: fruit snacks, capri sun, chips, fruit, bottled water, popcorn, etc.

· Coolers with wheels

· Caps/Hats

SafeHaven’s kids also like to take field trips during the summer months. We are looking for tickets and donations of fun activities such as waterslide rentals, major or minor  league sports games, museums, water parks, restaurants with playgrounds (such as McDonald’s), and any other fun kids’ activities. Contact Krista Moffett at 817-535-6462, ext. 101 or with ideas. Any suggestions and/or donations will be greatly appreciated!   

SafeHaven participates in Greatest Gift Catalog Ever

ggceSafeHaven was chosen for the second year in a row as one of the participants in the Greatest Gift Catalog Ever. The catalog showcases different ways people can give to the organizations, especially at Christmas. If you would like to order free catalogs for  customers at your place of business, please call Sarah McClellan-Brandt at 817-535-6462, ext. 119 or For more information about the catalog, click here.

Client moves from victim to survivor

Cara arrived at the shelter six months ago with her young child after

suffering a broken wrist and rib at the hands of her abuser. She drove herself to the hospital because she had no one to call. While in the emergency room, a hospital worker contacted the police department on her behalf. While the police searched for the abuser, Cara was referred to SafeHaven. When she called our hotline at 1-877-701-SAFE (7233), she was admitted into the Fort Worth shelter. In the early stages of pregnancy, her injuries caused her to suffer a miscarriage. After recovering, she immediately found a job as an executive assistant. During her stay at the shelter, she took full advantage of SafeHaven’s counseling and therapeutic services. Her young son also received counseling and play therapyand, as a result, his behavior vastly improved. Cara is now residing in her own apartment through SafeHaven’s SafeLiving program and has received Crime Victim’s Compensation. Her remarkable determination has her resolved to create a life of permanent safety for herself and her son.

In case you missed it: 

You can view UT Head Football Coach  Mack Brown’s Legacy of Men speech by clicking


See what Carson Bold had to say about this year’s Lemon Aid stand by clicking here.  

The Star-Telegram’s Melinda Mason mentioned Berry Good Buys as a great place to volunteer in her July 2 article. Click here to read it!

Kroger has added SafeHaven to its Neighbor to Neighbor donation program. This means that when you bring in a letter with SafeHaven’s barcode on it, they will scan it and each time you use your Kroger card a percentage of the proceeds will come to SafeHaven. Click here to view our blog posting on this and print your letter.

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Minuteman Press

Minuteman Press of Fort Worth has generously sponsored this newsletter. Be sure to say a quick thanks to owner Bill Lynch when you see him around! Or, just visit the Web site at

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How to make a difference

If you’d like to advance our mission and support SafeHaven’s work with domestic violence victims, there are a variety of ways to help.  

Volunteer:             Contact Krista Moffett at 817-535-6462, ext. 101 or You can find volunteer opportunities by clicking "volunteer" on our Web site.
Donate funds:
We accept credit card donations on our website, Just click on "donate" and fill out the form that fills the screen. We also take credit card donations by phone at 817-535-6462. Checks can be sent to:  6815 Manhattan Blvd., Fort Worth, TX 76120.
Donate items:
Drop off donations of clothing, housewares, furniture and other items at Berry Good Buys, 1701 W. Berry Street, Fort Worth, Texas 76110 or at the Arlington Resource Center at 401 W. Sanford, Ste. 1400, Arlington, TX. To arrange a donation pick-up of large items, call 817-921-5898. Also, check out Berry Good Buys’ new Web site at

Upcoming Events

July 31

New West Gallery in the Fort Worth Stockyards is holding a benefit for SafeHaven. Click

here for details.

September 4

Walk This Way Runway Show and Benefit. For more information, contact

September 11

Fort Worth Peacemaker, a six-mile obstacle course race, portion of proceeds benefitting SafeHaven. Click here for more information.

October 29

Legacy of Women Awards Luncheon. Click here for more information.

October 29-November 7

HeartCard Shopping Event. Click here for more information.

November 1

Ambucs Golf Tournament benefitting SafeHaven at Timmaron Golf Course. Email for more information.

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The Surviving Spirit Newsletter – Healing the Heart Through the Creative Arts  –

Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars. – Kahlil Gibran

Hello Folks,                                                                                               June & July issue

Welcome one and all to the latest offering of news, resources, and information from the Surviving Spirit. Summer is officially here and a time to unwind and relax a bit…so with that in mind and with so many people on vacation, it seemed right to combine the months of June & July into one issue.

We’ve held several events recently that have helped the Surviving Spirit in its Mission and Vision of the things we are trying to do through the creative arts in raising awareness on the issues and concerns of trauma, abuse and mental illness. All have been well received and it has brought more folks on board to the newsletter and also helping us in our efforts in other ways. Our website continues to move along in the building process…still more to do, but we are getting there. As the saying goes, “slow but sure”.

Speaking of the website, our News & Events section is up and running, we still have some tweaking to do…but please note: We have two parts to this, one is for matters of interest that pertains specifically to what the Surviving Spirit is doing and the other part is to share information on what other organizations and individuals are doing that concerns their events, conferences, advocacy and creative news, etc.

If you have news or an upcoming event to share, please let us know.  You can ‘check it out’ at click on News & Events, fill out the form and send us the information you wish to have shared. Thanks!!

And here are some more helpful resources and news from our friends and colleagues:

1] Meg LeDuc who is involved with the Bazelon Center for Mental Health Law has put together a new website and blog called Divinest Sense. It is to be an artistic forum for people who have struggled with a mental illness and who express themselves through the graphic arts, music, writing, video and more. Please visit  to learn more.

2] This is some great news from the folks at Mental Health America – they have launched a new national campaign on the importance of stress and trauma in the development of mental health problems and the need to appropriately treat them in order for people to get better. Called S.T.A.R. of Mine (for Stress, Treatment, Awareness, Recovery), the campaign will raise awareness of the impact of trauma & help remove the stigma attached to it

Hmnnn….on a personal note, this cuts to the heart of the matter that helped to shape and start this newsletter and my advocacy efforts many years ago in the early 90’s. I enjoy sharing the news and information of what others are doing – it is a labor of love. But there is a flip side to that; it reminds me of why I and so many others do what we do. The stigma attached to the impact of healing from trauma, abuse and/or “mental illness” only makes one’s healing journey that much harder. So this program from Mental Health America and the efforts of what others are doing will hopefully some day end that stigma and discrimination.

3] Cynther Jones has a radio show that is broadcast down in Texas. She recently launched a new segment called "Mental Health Spotlight," which features a mental health professional or a mental health consumer, monthly. She is also a mental health consumer advocate. The show airs on Thursdays, at 11:30 a.m., on KGLD 1330 AM. Listen world-wide, online, at  This is a Gospel station, but the program is secular.

I had the good fortune to be on her show several weeks ago…we touched upon many of the issues that pertain to those of us affected by mental health concerns and the impact upon us as parents and so much more. If you would like to be on her show, write to her at or call the radio station at (903) 526-1330

I hope to post a recording of the show I was on to my website soon.

4] Fia Marie has a website, The Borderline Experience – BPD Up Close & Personal and a blog that is a great resource and place for peer support around the issues of Borderline Personality Disorder.

5] Courage Network –  A community for domestic violence organizations, professionals, advocates and survivors. And a resource for victims, family and friends dealing with domestic violence in their personal lives.

6] Corinna West, Certified Peer Specialist also has a website Human Hand Wordworks for her Motivational speaking, spoken word poetry, and catalyst for change –

I’m also excited that I will be co-presenting with Corinna and Gayle Bluebird [ ]a workshop – Developing Your Art Practice into a Self-Supporting Business to Promote Social Justice at the Alternatives Conference in Anaheim, CA Sept. 29th – Oct. 3 rd 2010. Learn more about the conference at:

7] We thought it would be helpful to share some resources to help those who are writers, would be authors and poets with some information that could help them in their creative endeavors. Self-publishing is a great thing for those of us who are creative, but it still helps to have some basic guidelines to follow and learn from. With that in mind here are a few websites to help you –

What is Good Writing?

And for our musician friends –

Please note I’ve been in music all of my life…I’ve seen the best and the worst of those in the ‘business’ taking advantage of us. CDBaby does indeed help independent musicians and bands. They have helped me to sell my music worldwide with credit card orders and also getting me connected into I-Tunes and so many other Internet sites that have sold my music. Payments to me are timely, but what they also do is share LOTS of helpful resources and tips for promoting and selling your music – so do check them out.

If any of our artist friends have some helpful resources to share, please let us know.

8] Sheva Burton shares this news from ‘across the pond’:

UK RALLY AGAINST CHILD ABUSE, Trafalgar Square, London, Saturday August 7th, 2010

Start – 1:00pm Members of the public will be invited to take the stand to voice their views and share their stories. Finish – 5:00pm
The UK Rally Against Child Abuse is an opportunity for people from all walks of life to join together not only in raising awareness of this most serious issue but also to show victims/survivors/families that you/we/they are not alone.
Everyone is welcome and encouraged to join us – survivors, non-survivors, friends, families, children, supporters and support organizations, anyone who is against child abuse and wants to make a difference.
(Please note: this event will be filmed) speeches aired with permission!/event.php?eid=121663397854205&ref=mf

9] Upcoming event information for the 5th Vital Cycles Retreat being held in Fredericksburg, VA  August 6-8 2010,  can be found at

The purpose of Vital Cycles is to empower those who seek joy in living while healing the emotional impact of trauma.

Take care, Mike

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PAVE Newsletter

Shatter the Silence of Sexual Violence

June 2010

In this Issue

:: International Dialogue for Action

:: Booking for 2010

:: Save the Date!

:: Security on Campus, Inc.

:: Angel Rising CD

:: PAVE Library Series

:: Planning Committee Members Needed

Dear Jacki m,

PAVE shatters the silence of sexual violence through social awareness, educational outreach, and legislative efforts. By being both prevention and awareness focused, PAVE works on all fronts to end sexual violence affecting men, women and children throughout the globe.
We use art, education and action to challenge cultural norms that encourage violence and ignore the spectrum of sexual abuse.  We create an awareness and response to any injustices victims, survivors and their communities suffer.
You’re invited to join this important work – learn more today!

Cecilia Attias Foundation for Women


Dialogue for Action

Cecilia Attias, former First Lady of France, founded the Cecilia Attias Foundation for Women who hosted the first annual international forum dedicated to helping women around the world. It was an invitation only event and Angela Rose, PAVE Founder, was in attendance. The goal of the event was to build a dynamic community of organizations from every continent that champion the cause of women’s dignity, equality and well-being. More info

Cecilia Attias

Angela Rose

Angela Rose’s decade of work on the issue of sexual violence has made her a highly-respected, engaging speaker and expert on sexual assault and violence prevention. She is also widely recognized as an advocate for survivor empowerment. Angela’s efforts have been profiled by CNN, The Today Show, The Montel Williams Show, CosmoGirl, Girl’s Life magazine and in newspapers nationwide.

More info



30th NOVA Conference

Date: August 22-25, 2010
Location: Salt Lake City, Utah
Purpose: The conference will focus on enhancing your the skills to work with victims. There are plenty of opportunities for all to refine your professional capacities and develop specialized skills.
More information available

National Sexual Assault Conference

Date: September 1-3, 2010
Location: L.A., California
Purpose: The California Coalition Against Sexual Assault will be hosting the 2010 national conference
Learn more

15th International Conference on Violence, Abuse and Trauma (IVAT)

Date: Sept. 12-15, 2010

Location: San Diego, CA

Purpose: The mission is to provide professional training and information dissemination to improve the quality of life for those affected by violence, abuse, and trauma on local, national, and international levels; PAVE is a collaborating organization


Security on Campus
Emergency Guidebook
Security on Campus Inc. is offering a customizable Emergency Guidebook for you to tailor to your campus community! Learn more here!

Date: July 7-8, 2010
Location: Philadelphia, PA
Partnership: University of Pennsylvania’s Division of Public Safety
Date: July 19-20, 2010
Location:Chicago, IL
Partnership: Northwestern University’s Police Department



PAVE’s Website

ANGELA’s Website


Steve Connell at PAVE event in LA

PAVE is pleased to announce the release of the highly anticipated spoken word CD from poet Steve Connell. All tracks are original pieces and inspired by PAVE’s work to shatter the silence of sexual violence. Limited edition – purchase yours today!

"Steve’s performance at PAVE in L.A. was absolutely brilliant! No matter how many times I hear it, you need to know that it changed my life. Drastically."

"Hearing Steve’s poem was more healing than years of therapy."


Steve Connell is the Poetry Slam Champion and 2003 National Champion (team LA). His work has been featured on a wide variety of media outlets, including ABC World News, Good Morning America, MSNBC’s Hardball, HBO’s Def Poetry (twice), Showtime’s Crossover, MTV’s World AIDS Festival, BET’s Lyric Café, as well as Oprah Winfrey’s celebration of Maya Angelou’s 75th birthday and Quincy Jones’ Lifetime Achievement Award celebration.


PAVEs Library Series to Shatter the Silence of Sexual Violence

Did you know that 1 in 4 girls and 1 in 6 boys are sexually abused before they are 18 years old? Would you like to help STOP that statistic?

PAVE: Promoting Awareness, Victim Empowerment is celebrating our 10 Year Anniversary by creating a multi-media library series of violence prevention material. Our first DVD, "Transition to Survivor," has been used by universities and military bases across the country to raise awareness and prevent sexual crimes. WE NEED YOUR HELP to continue this important work.

ANY DONATION AMOUNT IS WELCOME! We offer special perks for donations in these ranges:

  • $100: your name will be listed in the rolling credits
  • $250: Above PLUS a signed copy of the DVD
  • $500: Above PLUS a special thank you on our website
  • $1,000: Above PLUS your name alone paused on screen during credits
  • $2,500: Above PLUS your name or company logo featured on the front of the DVD packaging of our 2 new films, thanked in the beginning of the film, plus at the end in the credits.



BROOKLYN, NEW YORK – Spring 2011


Working with MTV’s Sarah Rice, PAVE is planning an Arts for Awareness event to be held at the Knitting Factory in Brooklyn featuring an eclectic mix of artists, silent auction and celebrity appearances.



After receiving wonderful feedback from last year’s Removing the Mask red carpet event in Los Angeles, PAVE’s team has decided to hold it’s second gala in Los Angeles. Last year featured internationally acclaimed author Dave Pelzer, author of A Child Called IT as well as dance and an original spoken word piece from poet Steve Connell.


Donate today to continue our efforts to shatter the silence of sexual violence in your community!


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Modern B*A*G Ladies

July 6, 2010

Modern B*A*G Ladies

Auto Pilot into the Mens Room

Posted: 01 Jul 2010 10:05 PM PDT

Nothing will give you tunnel vision like four pregnancies and sucking down Minnesota’s version of Seven Eleven’s Big Slurpee. It’s 250 miles into the 286 mile trip and I must say the words he dreads most. "Tom, I need to go to the bathroom."  What is about men and road trips? Their inner race car driver comes out.  "I was on a record pace. Seriously, can’t you make it 30 more miles.  I told you not to drink that huge cup of iced tea." (image provided under creative commons license flickr user smaedli)
"Um….. No!"  You know the feeling.  It’s like one minute dry as a desert, over-filled water balloon the next.  Your insides are holding onto the knotted end as it hangs lower with each targeted pothole the husband conveniently hits like a down hill skier making every gate.  "No talking, joking or laughing. Mom’s concentrating."  One more jolt and it will certainly burst.  We’ve made the trip to my parents 100’s of times and I’ve been in every bathroom along the way, dirty and clean. I see the sign.  It’s a beacon of relief.  "Tom, next exit.  Don’t you dare drive past."
The Potty Dance
I walk into the gas station/restaurant/truck stop as casual as possible.  Ho Hum. Don’t mind me, cool mama coming though. Great, I’ve got to sneeze. Casually stop. Bring the knees together.  Squeeze.  Sneeze.  I sprint the last 10 feet to to the ladies room. Damn it’s locked. I turn to check the mens room.  And wouldn’t you know, it appears hubby beats me to the door. TIME FOR THE POTTY DANCE. "Doing the potty dance. Doing potty dance."  Just when you think you couldn’t make it another second the bathroom is available.  I’ll spare you my embarrassing pee in my pants for another post.
It’s interesting how my brain stores the maps to every ladies rooms I’ve ever used.  In the door, take a right, then a left, straight back.  For instance, the ladies room, at an office where I used to work, was always on the right and the mens room was always on the left.  It was a pretty big office and each paired restrooms were laid out this way.  A year ago they downsized and moved the corporate office.  I don’t work at the corporate office any longer, but occasionally need to spend the day there.  On one of those day, soon after arriving the morning tea runs its course and I make my way to the right hand ladies room.  Door open.  Man washing hands.  Dang!  Who is the heck changes a right turning ladies room into a left turning ladies room?
Today, I stopped at the busiest convenient store/gas station in town, to use the restroom.  They had remodeled some months back and guess what?  They turned their left turned ladies room into a right turned ladies room.  Door open. Urinal.  Palm. Forehead. Smack!
There’s this other time when the door back into the office from the engineering lab was one of four identical looking doors.  Yep you know the story.  That makes 3 times I’ve accidentally walked into the mens restroom.
Signs, Maps, GPS Systems

Now wouldn’t it make more sense to have a sign like this posted outside.  It would keep the men out and women would definitely know that room was their room.  Another piece of advise to architects on proper sign placement.  Put the sign on the door.  Not to the side.  That just makes me second guess which door it is. (cartoon provided by
Today when I planted my eyes on that urinate I thought to myself, "I wonder if I’ve gone into the mens room and not realized it."  No really, I thought, "In what other areas of my life am I on auto pilot, ignoring the signs" 
It’s so easy to follow our pre-subscribed maps.  Safe, familiar, predictable seems to be the only logical course to take.  I have a map for that.  Two blocks, left, two blocks, right, 6 miles, right, 10 miles, right, 5 blocks, left,2 blocks, right into the parking lot.  Sure my eyes are on the road, but guess what? I don’t look at the signs anymore.  No need. I know the way too well.
I go to a lot of soccer games at remote soccer fields in towns I’ve never been.  I take a map, use my GPS and I follow the signs.  Sometimes the maps and the GPS don’t agree.  Almost always the signs are right.  Some of them are small and hard to read, which means I have to slow down to read them.  I’ve never not gotten un-lost and the kids have always made the game.
Here’s me in auto pilot mode.  There are sure signs of me not facing my fears and traveling outside of my auto pilot map.

  • Quick to anger and unwilling to stop for potty breaks for fear of not breaking my own record.  Its all about me.
  • I don’t dance and there is no laughter
  • I procrastinate by doing busy work
  • I own stuff I don’t need or have a personal connection
  • There’s a toy box full of McDonald’s Happy Meal Toys
  • We didn’t own a dog
  • I don’t listen
  • I raise my voice 
  • I defined my quality of life by my income
  • I thought when girls didn’t go the college they got married

We’ve reached the (dead) end……
Here’s some food for thought.   Leave the map at home. Set out on an adventure and follow the signs.  Don’t be afraid of getting lost. Flip a coin. Left is heads, right is tails.  Oh and before your go, DRINK A BIG OLE 44 OUNCE CUP OF SOMETHING, GET PREPARED TO  LAUGH YOUR ASS OFF AND THEN PEE YOUR PANTS!!

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Comming Soon – Discover Your B*a*g Scavenger Hunt

Posted: 04 Jul 2010 11:09 AM PDT

A Tote B*a*g that’s a Traveling Sanctuary ~ You’re the Traveling Sanctuary

A Tote B*a*g that coaches ~ It’s not a Coach Bag

A Tote B*a*g that reminds you to fuel yourself first ~ Self Care, Not Selfish Care

A Tote B*a*g that is a conversation piece ~ It voices your passions and starts a conversation

A Tote B*a*g that supports the empowerment of women.

Discover Your B*a*g ~ We want to share your story.  Your B*a*g fuels the Believe Act Go Traveling Sanctuary of others.

Proceeds of tote bag sales benefit Enchanted Makeovers and The Angela Shelton Foundation, two non-profit organizations that empower healing and leading joyful lives.

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The Best Fuel is FUN & FREE

Posted: 05 Jul 2010 11:19 AM PDT

Yes, it’s true, the best fuel is free.  That is, fuel for your Believe Act Go Traveling Sanctuary.  And a Victoria Secret Catalog Contains Free Fuel.

Fuel – Intangible energy you generate from with in your feminine power.  It is eco-friendly and infinitely renewable.  Your joy and love shared with others fuels the fuel, multiplying the fuel.  It’s a beautiful cycle.

Case in point:

  • One Daughter
  • One Mom
  • One Friend
  • Friend’s kitchen
  • One Victoria Secret Catalog

Passing the time, waiting to savory an amazing Fourth of July meal I flip through a Victory Secret catalog, sitting on the kitchen island counter top."Paige, assuming I am 50 pounds lighter and would look fabulous in any of these outfits, pick which outfit I would choose for myself.  Don’t point it out until I tell you I’ve made my decision."
You’re sitting, waiting for an appointment or your child’s activity. Your riding in your car.  It’s seemingly wasted idle time, but in reality it’s the prime time to have fun and learn something about your friends and family.  It’s free time, literally free fuel time.
Taking turns picking our favorite outfits was a fun game.  I think we had a accuracy rate of 80%. "Why did you pick that?" I learned more about how her outer style reflects her inner spirit; earthy, eclectic, whimsy. 
Sharing and having fun is the best fuel.  You don’t need to spend money going to the movies, bowling or going on expensive vacations to fuel the fun.  What fun, free games do you play?  When and where?  What do you learn about your friends and family members?   

Send the message forward to your friends and family…LadyJ